In honor of Valentine's Day I wanted to write about someone who deserves the most love today; yourself. Today is a day all about giving attention to others, but you cannot forgot to give yourself some love too!
On Valentine's Day I write people letters and this is my form of showing them my adoration. Some people buy flowers, boxes of candy, and others invest in obscenely big bears, but I prefer a card above all else. It may seem like a cheap move but really it's not. Writing a card means I invested time, thought, and work into your gift. I'll even send carefully crafted texts with a tastefully paired emoji. I'm digressing, the reason I'm writing this article is because on the day of love not only do we forget to love ourself but we also forget to love who we are.
It's no secret that popular media has many problems in representing what our society really looks like. From whitewashing casts, to ignoring queer bodies, and even photoshopping models to unattainable proportions, our media crafts a fantasy realm we will never belong to. I will be the first to admit, my body ody ody isn't the best. In fact, some would say it's the worst it can get. But I have decided that people who say comments like this or judge people based off superficial elements are people I do not want to associate myself with. On the day of love, or any day in general, you should be surrounded by people who adore you inside and out.
I set a few goals for myself in 2017, and one of these goals was improving my wellness. I understand the concept of body envy, and I admit to have had it before. I know what it's like watching TV or movies and feeling embraced that I don't look like the stars. I know the feeling of wanting that outfit from GQ but not finding it in my size. All these things take a toll on your self esteem, but if you know what you're worth then these things don't matter. The reason for wanting to improve my wellness is not because of superficial reasons like wanting to attract people or go all over Instagram. I want to be healthy so I can be healthy.
I think that whatever you do should be only for you. The only person who will ever care the most about you is you. Love yourself above all else. Do what makes you happy.
I am honestly blessed to have friends who love me for being the petty-foul-mouthed-mess that I am. These are friends who I would never want to replace and they are friends who will always be my Valentine! I am okay with not being romantically involved with anyone right now because I am focusing on me. If you have a Valentine's date than I am so happy for you!
This is a really random post but it's something I wanted to share! Today and every other day love yourself for being you! Love your hair, your skin, your eyes, your mind, and all of you. And even if the big screen or glossy pages encourage you not to, love your shape, because round is shape.